This blog is firstly about balanced living, which includes being courteous and polite with others. As such, before I begin talking about how to live using manners, I believe it is necessary to explain why it is necessary first.
Etiquette matters because it is what keeps us from harming each other. Regardless of religion (or lack thereof), all should believe that humans have a responsibility to treat others well and take care of their neighbors. Not believing such makes one a sociopath.
We show this respect – this love – through using kind manners. You don’t have to memorize fan language (heaven knows this is ridiculous and outdated these days), but should learn what other people appreciate, what they dislike, what they are just okay with, and what topics are not up for discussion.
As an example, say you miss class because you are not feeling well. A friend calls to make sure you’re okay. You have two choices:
- Say, “I have stuff coming out of both ends.”
- Say, “I am not feeling well, but I will be okay. Thank you for asking.”
Which do you suppose will keep your friendship at a reasonable level?
Now say you have missed a class because you wanted to leave early for whatever reason. Again, you have two choices when somebody calls:
- Say, “I really hate that class and decided to skip out.”
- Say, “I did not wish to stay, but I am fine. Thank you.”
The former will lead to either a lie or trouble with the professor, should questions arise. The latter will end questions, so long as your friend is as courteous as you. As an aside, it is always rude to leave class early.
While etiquette may seem like a foreign language to you right now, I assure it will become easier over time. Your first assignment, due when I share my next lesson in etiquette, is to think of why etiquette is important and share it in the comments section below.
