Almost all people have to have jobs at some point in their lives. Similarly, almost all people working with others will face the occasional painful acquaintance: that person who thinks he’s hilarious, or pokes fun at others and causes emotional distress, or just cannot get things done. Coworkers can be some of the hardest people to be around, but unfortunately, many people spend a third or more of their days in close proximity. Handling obnoxious coworkers is a challenge, but it can be done with some practice and patience
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Archive for the ‘Etiquette’ Category
Handling Obnoxious Coworkers, Part 1
Sunday, January 24th, 2010
Career Pro-tip: Send a Thank You Note
Thursday, December 3rd, 2009These days, etiquette does not mean much to the average person, especially in America. No longer are the days of holding open doors, saying, “please” and, “thank you,” nor does addressing a man as “Sir” show respect, but rather an aging judgment. Because of this, potential employers will have the pants shocked off of them when you send a thank you note.
I will be following this post with a complete how-to guide on the art of the thank you note in the short future. Until then, tell me: do you send thank you notes to all those who have helped you or, in this case, given you the chance to showcase yourself?
Why Etiquette Matters
Tuesday, November 17th, 2009This blog is firstly about balanced living, which includes being courteous and polite with others. As such, before I begin talking about how to live using manners, I believe it is necessary to explain why it is necessary first.
Etiquette matters because it is what keeps us from harming each other. Regardless of religion (or lack thereof), all should believe that humans have a responsibility to treat others well and take care of their neighbors. Not believing such makes one a sociopath.
We show this respect – this love – through using kind manners. You don’t have to memorize fan language (heaven knows this is ridiculous and outdated these days), but should learn what other people appreciate, what they dislike, what they are just okay with, and what topics are not up for discussion.
As an example, say you miss class because you are not feeling well. A friend calls to make sure you’re okay. You have two choices:
- Say, “I have stuff coming out of both ends.”
- Say, “I am not feeling well, but I will be okay. Thank you for asking.”
Which do you suppose will keep your friendship at a reasonable level?
Now say you have missed a class because you wanted to leave early for whatever reason. Again, you have two choices when somebody calls:
- Say, “I really hate that class and decided to skip out.”
- Say, “I did not wish to stay, but I am fine. Thank you.”
The former will lead to either a lie or trouble with the professor, should questions arise. The latter will end questions, so long as your friend is as courteous as you. As an aside, it is always rude to leave class early.
While etiquette may seem like a foreign language to you right now, I assure it will become easier over time. Your first assignment, due when I share my next lesson in etiquette, is to think of why etiquette is important and share it in the comments section below.
